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Help! My teen daughter watches porn and I don't know what to do

Help! My teen daughter watches porn and I don't know what to do

Help! My teen daughter watches porn and I don't know what to do. Photo | Photosearch


Q: I'm a disturbed mum as I write this. Please help me. I recently learnt that my teen daughter has been watching pornography. She has been a very quiet and bright girl. We don't talk much with her because she is everything a parent would want from a daughter. She is very bright and attentive. I caught her watching pornography through her phone and I was so shocked. She is in form one. What would be the effect of this behavior? What should I do as a parent?


A: Thank you for your question. You sound devastated and already alarmed by your daughter's behaviour. From the look of things, you have lost the closeness between you and your daughter thanks to her good "behaviour" and academic excellence. You must have a cordial relationship with her from the start whether bright or not. Now, the most important thing is how to handle her and the situation. Parental control is all you can do to keep her from watching pornography but remember that cutting her off from watching these sites may not be an instant solution as it will not end her sexual curiosity. Start by having a non-confrontational conversation with her and get to know how much she knows and what she would like to know about sex. You may even want to take her to a therapist if you are not comfortable tackling sex subjects. But cutting off access isn't going to solve the problem of a teen being sexually curious. Another option would be to get her some sexual-related books with nothing pornographic of course, but just informative about sex. Remember that pornography distorts someone's view of what a healthy, loving relationship should be and it prompts them to start an unhealthy obsession with sex which will ruin their relationships later on. Internet porn perpetuates myths while putting ridiculous expectations on young girls and is unlike any normal, loving intimate encounter. It is important to spend time with your daughter and chat about different other issues. It will also help you to know her more. Remember that it will also require a lot of patience and understanding to achieve this. My best wishes.

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